this forty year old face

this is me

this is my forty-year old face

40 year old face

forty used to seem such a long way away, and now it is very much right here, right now. i feel happy that it is here. however i am constantly met with conversation where people feel the total and complete opposite. even to the point of ย devastation that forty has just come and knocked on their door. i wasn’t too fussed about my twenty-first and thirty pretty much just passed me by.

don’t get me wrong i don’t ever look back with any regret over those years, i totally and utterly embrace everything that they have taught me along the way.

my teens were exciting and exploratory, more than some will or ever or need to know. i certainly made my biggest mistakes in my twenties, but hey you know what? they were lessons that needed to be learnt, so i am grateful that i learnt them sooner rather than later, got them out the way. my thirties have defined me, more than i could have ever imagined and have made me the person i am now, now that i am forty.

i have friends that span all these decades, some that have been with me right from the beginning, some that i have met along the way. i’m a very lucky lady.

so what will forty bring me? who knows, who cares. what i do know is that i know what matters to me, and more importantly i know who matters to me, everything else is just simply part of the side-show.

hello forty i think we are going to be very very good friends indeed.


  1. March 3, 2014 / 21:15

    40’s best decade. Learnt so much by now, no longer give a sh*t, in the best possible way.

  2. Claire
    March 3, 2014 / 21:39

    Great post Vanessa. As someone who was with you in your teens and just celebrated her 40th I totally agree. The way I look at it is I’m just amazed I made it to 40 and that alone is a reason to celebrate! Happy 40th honey xx

    • March 5, 2014 / 23:00

      convent school prepared us well! ha ha ha ha ha
      happy 40th to you too sweetie x

  3. March 3, 2014 / 22:41

    Welcome to 40. Left my 30s last June, so I’m now hurtling towards 41. Have to say it’s no more painful than 39. (And your 40-year-old face is lovely)

  4. March 4, 2014 / 09:44

    And a wonderful face it is too! You are one of my favourite people in this blogging world, I love your attitude and outlook!

    • March 6, 2014 / 21:21

      thank you so much for your support and your blog love x thank you x

  5. March 4, 2014 / 09:49

    Lovely post and a great outlook on life. It’s a pretty beautiful face too ๐Ÿ™‚

  6. Clare B
    March 4, 2014 / 10:42

    Yes Vanessa… are so right. People keep asking me what I’m doing for my 40th…..I’m just gonna enjoy it and try not to count my wrinkles!! We all used to think that 40 was “passed it” – well….think we’ve all changed our minds now!! Ha ha! xx

    • March 6, 2014 / 21:23

      i didn’t get to bed until gone 6am so i’m proof that 40 isn’t passed it!

  7. March 4, 2014 / 13:48

    i am so with you here as I turn the big 40 soon (and sooner than I would like) and I am someone who is not looking forward to it at all . I think your attitude towards it is a good one though and is good for me to read
    you look amazing at 40 you honestly do, and i love your attitude. Maybe 40 rocks afterall x x

    • March 6, 2014 / 21:31

      my 40s are going to be my time, i already feel more comfortable being me than i ever have before x

  8. March 4, 2014 / 14:21

    Oh what a post ๐Ÿ™‚ I reckon 40 really suits you, you’ve got such a lovely, relaxed outlook and HOW do you look so good pulling those faces?! xx

    • March 6, 2014 / 21:33

      i think it might suit me too! and the faces??? it’s the light darling… ๐Ÿ˜‰

  9. March 4, 2014 / 14:40

    I’m loving my 40s – best decade so far but then, I’ve enjoyed all of them and am planning to carry on into the next few (if i’m spared, as my Granny used to say!) The nose photo is particularly gorgeous I must say!

    • March 6, 2014 / 21:43

      i’ve enjoyed all mine too, but have a feeling that this one will be the best!

  10. March 4, 2014 / 16:28

    Well if I looked as amazing as you, I’d be embracing it too! However, it’s looming for me and I’m in denial!

  11. March 4, 2014 / 20:21

    You look a beauty! I Love being forty *cough* erm two. Unless I hear myself say the number out loud and then I deny it, even to myself I could be that old!

  12. March 4, 2014 / 20:21

    Awww, you look AMAZING!!! I know a lot of people who say that 40 is fab, cause you don’t care what people think anymore ๐Ÿ™‚

    • March 6, 2014 / 22:01

      thanks emma that’s very kind of you. i think 40 is going to be absolutely marvellous

  13. March 4, 2014 / 20:57

    It’s wonderful to read how you feel the different ages have changed your life, here is to the forties may they be truly fabulous you like you x

    • March 6, 2014 / 22:04

      every decade has been so different, can’t wait to see what this one will shape up to be like! to the forties!

  14. March 5, 2014 / 08:27

    I love that 40 year old face! Being 40 is ok Does’t feel as bad as people make it sound! Any way – growing old is compulsory, growing up is optional

    • March 6, 2014 / 22:11

      it really isn’t is it, and i love the growing up is optional might have to use that when i’m not acting my age! ๐Ÿ˜‰

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