tonight i was on tv
this is me on tv on my tv
they didn’t have space for my full name he he!
what a strange day
itv crew rocked up at 7am
filmed us getting ready for nursery and work
jumped in the car with me and rooster to nursery
came with me to work, we nattered all the way
caused mild hysteria in the work car park
met me back at the nursery for pick up
came home with us and filmed our evening
sat us down and asked us lots about
being working parents
probable be edited down to 1 minute!
meet harriet and catherine
so last week i delved into my coat pocket to be starkly reminded of what our child care costs amount to each month. OUCH. i spoke on the radio about it and the lovely people at LBC fell over in shock. it is indeed more than our mortgage.
today in the press and on the news there were numerous articles/reports on how nursery costs are rising by nearly 6%, and that fewer families are now getting any help at all with these, following the childcare tax credit cuts back in april.
daycare trusts annual survey reported that the average cost of 25 hours of child care is around £100. however the most expensive nursery fee recorded in the survey maxed out at £300 for 25 hours, that equals to £15,000 for a full year of child care, of just 2 1/2 days a week!
so actually what does that make our annual bill? *taps calculator* sixteen thousand, five hundred and seventy-eight pounds and thirty-six pence. (if i type it out i can’t see it you see). clearly we are distinctly above average. jeez louise these are hefty numbers.
now i know for a FACT that the lovely ladies at the nursery don’t even get paid as much as we pay for the childcare and believe me they truly truly deserve it. i’ve tried finding out exactly how much before, but i am lead to believe that absolute top whack is around 15k, and 17k if you are room leader. but that is top whack, so how many truly get paid anywhere near that at all?
what pours more salt into the wounds is that you sign up for your hours, your weekly attendance, ronnie is full-time, which is 7.30 – 17.30 which is a long old day and as part of my package at work i get 6 weeks holiday. however you pay the nursery monthly and it is calculated on a 51 week year, as the nursery is shut for one full week over christmas and the new year. no other holiday allowance is made, so if you choose to take your holiday entitlement and spend time with your family you still have to pay the fees regardless! so for my 6 weeks holiday entitlement, i still get the pleasure to pay £1950.39 a year for childcare that i just don’t get. that surely is wrong? and that really does need to change. i would actually consider that to be fraud in my books paying for a service you just don’t get.
yes it is true that both parents can claim childcare vouchers through their employers but that is basically completely funding my 6 week holiday, so all a bit pointless really, rob peter to pay paul or is that rob paul to pay peter?? you know what i mean.
so tell me where is all this cash going? someone somewhere is getting very very rich at the expense of every parent that depends on the service. captured audience. in the words of catherine tate “what a f*cking liberty”
the hot topic this week is all about mothers, working and what that all costs. weirdly on tuesday i pulled a piece of paper from my pocket to find OUCH. the very next day i received a call from LBC radio to chat to nick ferrari about childcare costs in the uk capital and what impact this is having on london families. two days later i get tagged in a meme, a mothers working meme to be precise. tagged by the daily mum and started by pret a mummy (bargain mummy) and mother.wife.me. spooky.
And, most importantly…. you’re tagged!!
1. did you work before becoming a mum?
i’ve always worked, and often have had multiple jobs. i get bored you see, so need distractions. also i had always tended to have expensive taste too, so i would work hard to get what i wanted and do what i wanted.
2. what is your current situation?
both my husband and i work full-time and our son ronnie is at nursery full-time. ronnie hadn’t been planned and therefore we weren’t quite prepared for what was about to happen to us. what we had been prepared for was a bigger mortgage and a whacking big extension on the house and me starting a brand new job. one of those job opportunities that do not come along too often. i was however walking straight into the best working opportunity for a mother to be. i didn’t realise that at the time though. now however, i do appreciate some of the support that i have had and still get. support that many other mothers or mothers to be, don’t get. there is room for improvement but in comparison they are good.
I have been exceptionally lucky. the owner of the business set up the company 19 years ago and within the first 10 years she had 4 children. the director that i report into has 2 children, the head has 3 children and i was about to have 1.
i returned to work just 16 weeks after ronnie was born. mainly due to circumstance of the mortgage we had taken out to ironically make our house and family home.
i reduced my working hours by 1 hour monday to thursday and 1/2 an hour on a friday, so that i could gt back to the nursery in time before the fines kicked in. aye carumba £££££’s
as i said i am fairly lucky with my circumstance, my employers are pretty good, they are all parents and have an understanding. what hasn’t been a great experience though, are some of my colleagues attitudes. i can’t count the amount of times i’ve had snide comments made about working part-time. PART-TIME. i officially work 4 1/2 hours less than you, and my salary was kindly pro-rated for that too, and flexi time wasn’t really on the table at the time. however my guilty conscious and eagerness not to give anyone the excuse or opportunity to point the finger at the working mother, means i put in more than quadruple that at least in the evenings and weekends. however like others have said i’m pretty confident that with long lunches, cigarette breaks, chatting in the kitchen etc… i probably do work full time in comparison to a good percentage of the rest of the team.
if i ever have to dash off because ronnie was poorly, work was pretty fine about it. i had remote access installed at home, and also had skype, so i could pick things up with minimal disturbance. but i still had the comments of “not been around much have you?” “why work if you;ve got a baby?” from those around me.
i kind of understand that colleagues think perhaps they’re getting the short straw, because they see me pop off at 4.30 each evening, but they never take any time to fully understand what i do and how i do it, and what i have had to change to be able to focus my day. they also don’t seem to acknowledge, that my salary was pro-rated to account for these 4 1/2 hours but i still make these hours up without being paid for them. bonkers i know but i’m not giving anyone the excuse to say “oh well she didn’t get it done because she leaves early you know”
however since we have moved offices, flexi time has been introduced with a core attendance time. unfortunately, i can’t currently take advantage of this at present, but what has been quite interesting is how excited everyone else has been about the fact they too could leave at 4.30 and now suddenly i don’t appear to be considered part-time?
maternity pay now that is a sore subject. i have worked ever since it has been legal for me to do so. i have paid tax with all my jobs. now get this. i left a job on the friday and started a new one on the monday. but because i wasn’t employed by the same employer continuously for at least 26 weeks into the 15th week before the week your baby is due (the qualifying week) *takes a breath* i got nothing. N O T H I N G. so all those years i pay money to the government out of my earnings and the time when actually the £102 a week allowance could have actually helped us out, they say “errrrr sorry but you haven’t been in continuous employment!” WHAT? for two whole days, two whole weekend days. arses. however the real twist comes when actually i found out by totally by error, that i could trot off to the job centre and apply for the maternity allowance which was £20 more than the maternity pay instead!. why? why do this? why make this so blooming convoluted and difficult for everyone and why keep it so quite?
i need to stop now i could go on!